Valentine’s Day. I can’t help but think that, even more than making significant others feel loved and celebrated, the holiday just makes singles feel even more, well, single.
No one should ever feel less than for not being in a relationship, whether by choice or by circumstance. Valentine’s Day is actually so loathed that there are now Anti-Valentine’s Day parties. Have you ever seen an Anti-Easter party or an Anti-Fourth-of-July party? Doubtful.
Your worth is not in your relationship status
IF:Gathering took place in Austin last weekend and thousands of women were able to tune in to the livestream event all over the world. If you’re unfamiliar with IF:Gathering, it exists to gather, unleash and equip the next generation of women to live out their purpose. So much yes.
A friend of mine posted this quote from IF, and it really struck me leading up to this holiday of romance:
“I’m just wondering why it is that we have created being married with children and having the perfectly Pinterest life as the superior status in the church when we serve a Savior who was single.”
Why do we believe that our lives can’t truly begin until we’re married? Why do we buy in to the idea that if we’re single but our friends are in relationships, there must be something wrong with us?
What if we believed that there is a plan and a purpose for our lives, and that plan doesn’t only hit play when we say, “I do”?What if we stopped telling our single friends that “there’s someone our there for everyone” and, instead, remind them that there are modern-day slaves to be rescued and unwanted children to be loved and women to be saved from human trafficking? What if marriage weren’t our only vehicle to happiness?
And what would it mean for your life if perfection weren’t attainable (it’s not) and your purpose is yours and yours alone (it is)?
Last week, I attended a beautiful Galentine’s Day event put on by some of the most talented babes in the city, where I got to celebrate friendships old and new. This Valentine’s Day, I’ll go to dinner with my husband. I might post a picture, I might not. We might exchange gifts, we probably won’t. I’ll most likely wear a cute dress, like the one in this post (it’s only $15 right now—treat yo’self) and some red lipstick.
Whatever you do, I hope you know that you are so much more than a relationship status. That there is a plan for you, and it’s beautiful and only you can live it out. Will you?